After the death of my nephew, I realised that there were many parents out there consumed in their grief in silence and with no-one to help them express their feelings. People who had their whole world crumble in the worst way possible and who were reeling from losing a child but who were suffering alone, misunderstood.  I didn’t know how to tackle the problem of supporting them and provide them relief that they so desperately needed but I knew that this had to be done.

The media, my friends and the community around me always said that grief was something personal, that people would get over their grief in time.  That it would get easier each day. And that it was better to leave bereaved parents alone. People said things like, let them come to terms on their own with what has happened, they probably want to be alone, it’s easier that way.  And particularly sudden deaths, this was even more the case – people just didn’t know what to say, except express their own shock and sympathy. But beyond those well-meaning words, where was the help? The answers on how to go on?

Did you know that sudden death – unexpected death – can happen for so many reasons? From cot death, to accident, sudden illness or suicide – sudden death affects all ages and sadly you are not alone. 

The death of a child is so shocking, so devastating and the emotions, the grief involved are like no other.  It’s like the world has stopped and crumbled, never to be the same again. Everything loses meaning and nothing matters anymore. We know this and this is why we want to help you understand the loss of your child and how you can learn to find hope again after this tragedy. Over the next few minutes I’m going to reveal how we can help bereaved parents like you. You will discover that there is light at the end of the tunnel, there is a way to get through each moment and each day – because there IS a hand reaching out to you that understands how difficult this is. I can show you how you can make that first step on your journey to processing your loss, today.

The information I am going to share with you can change your future. It can give you hope of a life again after the loss of your child – a life that doesn’t forget them but a life that honours them in remembrance.

This is something that you owe to yourself and to your child, to act upon now. Because for every moment that goes past without the right support in place for you, without someone to talk to who truly understands not just your faith but your experience, is a moment where you are without the support that you need and deserve.

I often get asked – “But what if you can’t help me?”  And the truth is, that our resources and support have helped hundreds of people. We take many, many calls a week from bereaved parents. Many parents who have suffered a similar, sudden and shocking loss to you and who are reeling – weeks, months or even years later. And for each of these people who reach out to us, we reach back and we are with you for as long as you need us.

I also get told “I don’t want to forget them, don’t ask me to forget my child.” We are not asking you to do that – in fact, quite the opposite. But the reality is that you do need to address that they have gone and the grief that you are left with. Our specialist grief recovery support remember and honours your child’s life as well as works at understanding your loss. And this is so important in helping you to process your grief.

Why is it important? Well this pain you are feeling, take a moment to think of it like this: What if, it doesn’t ever go away? Doesn’t even diminish? What if it continues to take the floor from under you at every opportunity? What will your future be? Even though it may seem hard now, if you don’t take action now, if you don’t allow us to help you, every day will continue to leave you exhausted.