My deepest condolences go out to you for experiencing such a difficult time.
After the death of my nephew, I suspected that there were many parents out there consumed in their grief and with no-one to help them.
I knew that included in that group there would also be couples and mothers who had experienced a termination and were mourning alone.
That they were perhaps feeling misunderstood or even ashamed and as such were suffering in silence.
I didn’t know how to tackle this problem but I knew that something had to be done to help them.
I’m sure that you have heard many opinions about termination and I’m sure that you have heard many ideas about grief and how we should treat grieving parents.
I have. Everyone around me always said that grief was something private and that it was better to just leave bereaved parents to ‘get over it’ in their own time.
But when it came to termination there was a particular silence, a particular refusal to openly discuss this as a loss – no matter the individual circumstances.
And so there exists instead opinions and judgments about termination and how the mother and father should feel and shouldn’t feel.
And ultimately how we should treat parents who have experienced the termination of a pregnancy.
Did you know that many women decide to go through with a termination in the UK?
Sometimes for health reasons, sometimes for private and social reasons. Whatever the reason, each decision is personal.
Sometimes it is because they feel they have no other choice or even because doctors advise them that they must. Each person’s experience is different but you are not alone and the array of emotions that accompany termination are common.
No matter if this was openly your choice or something you felt compelled to do, a termination is shocking, devastating and the thoughts and feelings involved are like no other.
No matter if your termination was at a few weeks or later in to your pregnancy, the loss remains the same – and it is a loss.
We know this and this is why we want to help you understand termination and how you can learn to find life again.
Over the next few minutes I’m going to reveal how we can help bereaved parents like you – because although you may not think of it, that is what you are.
You will discover that there is light at the end of the tunnel – that there are people who understand and who won’t make judgements about your experience - but instead will accept you and listen.
The information I am going to share with you can change your life, the life you are living right now which is filled with pain and confusion.
You may wonder how or why this is possible – or even if you can or should look forward to a brighter day once again. But for every moment that goes past without the right support in place for you, without someone to talk to who truly understands your experience, is a moment of intense grief controlling you that you do not need to suffer.
Processing your emotion is something that you owe to yourself to act upon now.
This is a time when you need to be kind to yourself and acknowledge the impact of what you have been through.
The pain you are feeling is awful and I am sure you feel anguish, confusion and like your heart has been broken.
This wasn’t what you wanted, you didn’t want to choose this path.
And although you understand that, it hurts and you feel sadness - but perhaps you are not sure why.
Do you feel like these emotions won’t go away – no matter how hard you try to push them down?
What if no matter how much you try to forget or move on, that doesn’t happen?
Even though it may be difficult - if you don’t take action to address the loss you have experienced, if you don’t allow us to help you, intense grief will stay with you.
You’ll have Lifetime Access to the Membership portal - meaning you can use the resources whenever and wherever you like – because we know grief has no timetable.
You'll get 24-hour access to the members area, 7 days a week on any device to have the piece of mind you crave.
You’ll get access to Training Videos on understanding termination - so that you are able to understand the experience of termination and why the loss you have suffered is significant.
You’ll also be able to download Factsheets on Understanding Termination, available to read when you are ready.
You can hear and read real stories from real people who have experienced termination. So you can realise that you are not alone and that you do not have to feel isolated.
We’ll also give you access to a Private Parents Online Group with people who have suffered termination. So you can access support from other parents from around the world in a similar situation to yours and lean on each other as you come to terms with your loss.
Our exclusive community means you can get support from other parents from around the world in a similar situation to yours.
You'll be able to access our ever-increasing hub of FAQs, answered by scholars and specialists in the area of child bereavement.
And you’ll receive access to the latest termination resources when they become available - giving you peace of mind that we are here for you in the future, whenever you need us.